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3 oracle items tagged as love
May 18, 2010 / submitted by Rachel, United States of America
Q.  Is it possible to fall in love with someone after two months of knowing each other with a few dates here and there, but never actually have an incredibly deep conversation? Or is it just being confused for infatuation and/or lust?

I think you can certainly fall in love that quickly - quicker in some cases - as we can have a connection with people immediately. The tricky thing is it could quite easily be infatuation or lust as you say.

It's a tricky area because as time goes on feelings can either grow, stay the same or diminish.

There are so many different variations on what love is and how long it lasts. You could be with someone and love them but then meet someone who makes you feel incredible. Maybe you had that with the person you're with and had forgotten. People enjoy that rush so much that they believe they are in love with more than one person. That's entirely possible of course but the feeling could pass. Some people are only looking for that rush which is why many people have affairs.

Anyway, I digress... I do tend to think that if you're attracted to someone physically or whatever, it can be mistaken for love. I don't think it's possible to generalize on this as some people believe in love at first sight and it lasts a lifetime where for others, when the shine wears off the love disappears.



May 6, 2009 / submitted by Lulu, United States of America
Q.  Dear Oracle,
Can you fall in love, then fall out of love but still want to be with this person? Is it okay to still be together if one person feels stronger about the other than this other does for them, even though this other does still love the other?

I love this guy, but I don't know if I'm still "in love." I think that I was, but now I'm not so sure. He still loves me like he did when we started dating, but now he's more my best friend than a boyfriend, though we are still going out. It worries me. And I still do love him, too.

So can you fall out of love, yet still love?

I believe you absolutely can. Sometimes people use the term 'in love' and perhaps don't realize that actually the intoxicating feeling is the first throes of a new relationship. This feeling can pass, usually within the first 2 years and when it goes, people assume that they don't love the person as much. It might have been replaced with a deeper, truer love. It's hard to guess as love can feel like a rollercoaster ride. You can feel in love one day and the intense feelings can pass another. But they can come and go, so you may feel them again.

If you do find that you just want to be friends and that's the only feeling you have, it'd be kinder in the long run to walk away, but take care to explore your feelings.



April 9, 2009 / submitted by Jonathan, Denmark
Q.  Hello O' wise Oracle!

I am really in love with this girl, and i'd like to reccomend one of Coldplay's songs too her which also contained a either clear or subliminal message about love.

Which one should I pick?

If you like her and you don't think or know if she feels the same, there really is only one song for it; Shiver.
If you already know she loves you back, you practically said the song yourself in your question: A Message from the X&Y album. You can read the lyrics in our Discography but I think it certainly is a message of love and I think she'd know what you're trying to say.



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