August 14, 2014 - submitted by Lisa, United Kingdom

Q. My daughter was/is an amazing drummer but she's had 1 year off after getting a bit burnt out after constantly performing/practising . She is now 14 years old and has just picked music for her GCSE , how can she get back into having fun with drumming without getting pressure from teachers. She would love to get back onto stage but she doesn't have a band to perform with.


The Oracle replies:

Gandhi once said, "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." I wouldn't normally connect that quote to a situation such as this but I feel it's important for us as individuals to take control.
I therefore think your daughter needs to do this herself. It will be the greatest lesson if she goes forward and works out what paths she can take. Those decisions are an important part of learning how to make it all work.
She doesn't need a band but if she wants one, that's something she can do if she puts her mind to it.
If she needs help with asking her teachers to ease off the pressure, that's where you come in as her Mum and help guide how she handles it.
If she'd rather pursue drumming as a hobby, she should be allowed to do that rather than be pushed because of her talent. That will most likely cause her to rebuff it again.
It's brilliant to have a passion and great ability but what a shame it would be if her teachers turn it into something negative. Your daughter mustn't allow that to happen against her will. Tell her to stay strong and remain true to herself.