June 19, 2014 - submitted by JMS, United States of America

Q. COLDPLAY has been a lifesaver for me at times. I need my music. Lately though I don't want to keep going on with life. I am a YOUNG 48 year old and have MS. I can't get the help I need because of cost. But it's been so long now I don't care. I am strictly and properly puzzled at those with worse, so happy and inspiring. HOW does that work?


The Oracle replies:

I don't know how it works but it does. This may sound flippant but it's not meant to - maybe you need to try to change your outlook. I'm sure it's a struggle but like you say, there are many worse off.
I'm going to share a couple of stories with you.
You're a couple of years younger than my friend who also has MS. She's as bright as a sunbeam and always laughing and having fun - despite her wheelchair. She went through a divorce but has now remarried and never lets anything prevent her from enjoying her life - different as it is from the one she had.
My other friend who is also in his early 50s, was involved in a car accident over 25 years ago. He wasn't expected to live but defied doctors not only by coming out of his coma but with rehabilitation, walking with the aid of a stick and speaking - albeit with difficulty. He was never bitter about his situation and had one of the most positive outlooks I've ever seen in that circumstance.
Unfortunately, two years ago he had a fall and broke his neck. He is now in a care home and cannot move, eat or drink. Would you believe that he still never complains or speaks negatively about what has happened to him? He's an inspiration. He may have no quality of life but he has life and to him that is precious enough.
All I can suggest is to look into what you can do rather than what you can't. I wish you well.