November 7, 2013 - submitted by Star, United States of America

Q. Hey Oracle, I'm 18 years old and as far as my parents know I have never had a boyfriend, however I started dating guys when I was 14. Now I have a 23 year old boyfriend and I don't know if I should tell them. Do I keep hiding them or tell my parents. I don't want this relationship to end. Help please?


The Oracle replies:

No good will come from keeping this secret. You don't have to mention previous boyfriends but at 18 I think it's likely your parents will expect you're dating.
How about you ask your folks if you can bring a friend home. When you arrive with your boyfriend, just introduce them, have a cup of tea (or whatever), a chat and then leave.
When you come back, ask what they think of him and then tell them you're dating.
They'll hopefully feel like you've asked for their acceptance - not that you necessarily need it. The thing is at 18, it's not really permission you seek, but approval.
If all goes well, they'll like him and be respectful of your relationship but more of the fact you included them.