17 November 2014 / submitted by Josh, Spain
Q.  Dear Oracle: Over the synthe in GS Film there's an iPad with an app. What app is open and plays Johnny? Thank U!!!
Thanks to Miller for this answer:
"Ah yes.
That's not actually an iPad - that's something called a Lemur, which was one of the first touch screen devices commercially available.
It controls the synth sounds in Midnight, but in a much more interesting way than knobs or sliders could - it lets Jonny "sculpt" the sounds by moving his fingers around the screen.
Hope that helps!

17 November 2014 / submitted by Lorraine, United Kingdom
Q.  Re the art excibition do u need a ticket or can u just turn up? Cheers.
I'm pretty sure you can just turn up to 17 Osborn St, Shoreditch, London, E1 6TD anytime during the gallery space's opening hours between 4-7 December. Advance tickets won't be available.

14 November 2014 / submitted by Lisa, United Kingdom
I recently lost my Dad. He was 72 and had not been ill, then started to feel tired and unwell. From the start of him feeling off colour to his death was 6 weeks. From his diagnosis to his passing was 3 weeks. He died in my arms at 21.01 on April 16th and passed away very peacefully. If there is such a thing as a beautiful death, then my beautiful Dad had it. The air was so thick with love, that if love was a physical solid thing, you could almost have reached out and touched it.
The trouble is, although I see that it was a blessing that he didn't suffer, he didn't have to experience any traumatic treatments etc and that he was surrounded by me, my Mum and Brother in his final days, I am struggling terribly. He's gone, I'm never going to see him, hear his voice again, smell his amazing smell or hear him call me Looby Lou, and it's heartbreaking. People who know me well can see this has had a profound effect on me, they know how important he was to me and when I'm asked how I am, I just can't explain how bereft I feel. How on Earth will I ever feel like me again.
I keep being told to smile and be happy, that my Dad wouldn't want me to feel like this, but it doesn't change how much I miss him, it doesn't bring him back, it doesn't make it right. I have an 8 year son who had the most amazing relationship with his Grandad and he has been a Godsend, but he's asking me questions I can't answer like where has Grandad gone. Who knows?

I miss him, he was an amazing man who lived a full life, a Naval career for 28 years, an expedition leader to the Arctic several times, a British Empire Medal owner. It seems so unfair for someone so full of life to be taken from us. How does someone cope with the loss of the person who shaped her into the woman she is today, who instilled his life lessons and morals into me? I feel totally heartbroken but in the same breath am trying to keep things normal for my little boy. It's the hardest thing I have ever gone through and I can't see how I will ever feel like me again :(
Any advice is so gratefully accepted.
This also broke my heart, Lisa. Life can be cruel and unfair. I feel your pain and sadly this isn't something I'll be able to much help with. Coping with loss is both a universal and individual experience. All I know is it hurts like Hell. No matter how long it takes, the loss will never leave you. Keep him alive by living and being the woman he hand in creating and moulding.
You need support, get it from wherever you can - family, friends, counsellors, groups, books, music - your son.
The thing is, your grief is all raw & consuming, I'm not sure how you're supposed to keep it together for your son. Children are usually more accepting of death and resilient to its effects. However, they absorb feelings of those around them.
Your son can see your pain and obviously he will be missing his granddad. You don't have answers and I wouldn't try to find a way around this. I think you need to be frank with him and explain all that you do know and maybe discuss together what he thinks about the things you don't.
I know we teach kids about people and pets going to Heaven when they die but maybe the most important thing is to remind them that love lives on in the heart & memory forever.
I'm sorry I can't help more but I hope you find your way through.
Over to you.

Lisa, I just want to tell you to stay strong. I think if it were my situation I would be feeling like you, so I think the best thing you can do is to think in the happy things still around you, and remember all the happy moments you have had with your dad. You may know everyone come to life for a reason, and you should remember your dad's and yours, because if you stay stuck in this situation, you maybe will lose precious time of your life. For this moment I believe you could go through it with your son and with your mum, and getting supported by your friends and your family. Just tell to your main, and think of your dad in a good way: 'maybe one day, I'll fly next to you'. Love, Rosario from Argentina.

I also experienced this my grandmother died six days before my birthday when I was six and my cousin who was like a brother to me died of cancer four years ago. I know how you feel and I also sometimes feel like that. But somehow I always think they're watching me or that are still with me and that I'll see them someday. I know this hurts and all I would advise you is to think your dad is with you and that one day you'll see him. I have fifteen years old and I have to be strong to move on with my life. Think of your child and your dad i think they would not want you to be like that. God put a smile upon your face, right? I hope this message make you smile in some way I totally know how you feel and I know that you'll get over it and start smiling and thinking positive again.
Stay Strong Lisa. Andrea.

First thing I am going to say is that I am sorry for your lost and hope God bless you and all your lovely family.
I can understand what are you passing through and who do you feel since someone so important passed away in such a quick and unexpected way. Every time I feel down or sad about this and miss this person so much, I always thing of something that really makes me to feel calmed and happier. God always take the good ones with him. I am sure your father was a great father, husband, worker and friend, and everyone loved him for that. God always that the good and loved ones with him because he doesn't want them to suffer any other thing that may happen on the world. He is a better place now and is proud of you because I am sure you are a great daughter and friend too. Just do want you thing is correct, do want you thing he would like you to do. Make good unexpected thing he never thought you were capable to do. So, from heaven, he would be prouder than you.
Karolyn, Ecuador.

Losing someone you love is tragic, but is also inevitable. Thing is, you shouldn't revolve the reason to your living around someone else's life. Yes, he is your father, but that doesn't mean life stops at his death. I might sound harsh, but I am trying not to sugarcoat things, I don't want to give you false hope. You have to try and understand that we all die, and nothing will stop us from being mortals. You mentioned having a son, that's great. You should try and shift your focus towards him. You don't have to worry about telling him where his grandfather is, he will eventually understand. You won't stop missing him, I'll tell you that, but the feeling will fade with time. Give it patience, time, and try not to be on your own too often. You'll get there. Solaf.

It's common for women to have unrealized relationship with dad, so feel joy for having such experience. You've the right to grief, but think of your son. He shouldn't think of death as something negative and frightening because he'll live with that emotions. Listen to verses which deal with death, explaining what happens after dying: "One day death is gonna conquer me, I'll be there where the waters flow. I hope sweet heaven has a place for me." "I just wanna be there when the lightning strikes and the saints go marching in." Relief comes if you know where the person is after death.
My husband lost his dad and grandma in a war; they were killed in their house by neighbors. He couldn't go to funeral because he was in another country as a refugee and was prohibited to travel. He's been suffering panic attacks. He wasn't a believer, but somehow he remembered prayer "Our Father". Being shocked on pain he started praying and suddenly everything has cleared; he felt relief and salvation. During time he has realized God existed and his dad was in heaven. Jesus said: "I'm the resurrection and life." He answered to my husband (who was adolescent at that time) that his father still lived happily and could guide and help him. It's not imagination or coping strategy but soul of a searcher. He's forgiven the murders and is the happiest person I've met. If he could do it,you'll also find your way if you want it. While listening "O", meditate on: "Into smoke I'm turned, and RISE." If you never try, you'll never know.
Love, Kamili.

Losing a parent is a really sad time.
3 years ago without any warning my Mum who was only 65 suddenly passed away. We were all devastated.
10 days later my aunty also passed away. She had been suffering from cancer. It was a terrible time for everyone.
3 years on, time has slowly made the pain less bad. There are still times when the hurt returns, birthday's, anniversaries, Christmas etc but as time goes on you will find things get easier.
As for your son, you can tell him his Grandad will always be there watching him.
I also turned a negative into a positive by working for Hospiscare for the last 3 years, who looked after my aunty in her final days.
I hope this helps. Mike.

True, losing someone is very hard, but by what you have said, it seems your father lived a wonderful and full life, surrounded by people he loved.
Feel better. Annie.

I am sending you my deepest condolences for the loss of your dad. The process of grief cannot be skipped over and that means you have to allow yourself to feel the pain that his diagnosis, his decline and his passing brought into your. You have to look at it (feel it) and recognize it (accept it) as a part of what you have experience in your life's journey and that pain is something that you went through and will shape you as you continue to grow in spirit. Accepting the pain as a part of your past is paramount to processing grief, which is the tool that life gives us to be able to continue on after losing someone so loved.
I recommend buying a book on grieving. It really helps to know that what you are feeling is really a process that others have experienced.
I suggest writing letters to your dad. Write about what you are feeling, about your day, about your fears, about your concerns, about how much it hurts right now. Write to him about anything you would have discussed with him while he was still with you.
Finally, his life, what he meant to you, the love you shared and the tremendous goodness he brought into your life and the life of those who loved him is and always will be bigger than his death and the sorrow it brought. The love you shared sounds way bigger than this hurt you now feel.
Best regards to you, Miranda.

I am sorry for you loss. It sounds like you and your family ushered him to the beyond in a loving and meaningful way. There is no timeline to feeling better - I wish there was. I believe that children can handle truth better than adults realize. I think it is good to talk to your son about you sadness, but assure him that you love him. Also, you can talk to him about death and what it means, so answer his questions honestly. I feel like learning about death is important, so people don't fear it or avoid loved ones when they are sick. I don't know if you will ever feel totally healed from his death, you just need to get used to a new normal. A great tribute to your father would be to instill the same life lessons and morals you son. Another idea, would be to do something symbolic to honor him. Do something that you and he enjoyed together such as going to a restaurant or walking in the park. My mom lost her own mother way too young. Every Sunday we have family dinner and she puts out wine glasses. Then we put whatever we are drinking in the glass. One time someone asked why we needed to pour a canned soda in the wine glass. My mother then replied, "We are having dinner with my mother." The glasses had once belonged to her mother. Take care, Marcia.

I really feel for you I was in much the same boat a few years back and it was hard. I felt as though the earth should not turn. When I walked into the family home the day of the funeral, I keenly felt his absence. I felt orphaned and alone. Like you we had a special relationship, and like you I also had a small child too. Your father would be proud of you, he sounds like a very fine man indeed. How we deal with grief varies we can't just fake it and be happy all the time. So cry and grieve, go for long walks, write in a journal and feel the loss, but if it gets too overwhelming please seek help of a professional. This is one of life's most stressful events and it will be a while before you are yourself again. How you answer your child will depend on your belief system and what you are comfortable with, be honest with him and be ready to give support. Remember that the very things you loved about your father likely will live on in you, you keep the person he was alive in the way you live your life. In time you will remember him with a smile and laughter. It will get easier. I wish you peace and comfort. Laurie.

I'm very sorry for your loss. As for advice all I can say to you is: Of course you miss him and of course you're still grieving, it only just happened. The people who tell you your dad wouldn't want you to be sad are probably right, but that doesn't mean you can start smiling again right away. Everyone grieves in their own way, but there's one thing that goes for everyone and that is that grieving takes time. You can't expect yourself to get over the loss of a parent you loved and cared for in the span of a few months. Just give it time and allow yourself to grieve. I'd tell your son the truth. explain to him on his level what death means and even if you're not sure yourself where your dad went, tell that to your son. I know its hard and you can't see it right now, but you will feel like yourself again. Maybe a year from now or maybe two or three and even though you'll often think about your dad even 10 years from now, you'll be just fine. Good luck! Amanda.

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14 November 2014 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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13 November 2014 / submitted by Pablo, United States of America
Q.  Hi Oracle!
I have a quick question: How can I know when Coldplay is going to give a concert without having to enter the website. It would be great if there was an option that e-mails you their next concert.
Is that possible?
You can sign-up to receive our newsletter by filling in the join the mailing list field (top right of the website).
This does not guarantee you will hear about tickets in advance (or indeed be successful getting them) as tours are also announced on the website but it's worth signing up.
If you're a facebook user, it may be helpful to follow the band as sometimes we announce there first, depending on where the show is taking place but generally to be safe, I'd go with the newsletter.

13 November 2014 / submitted by George, United States of America
Q.  Dear Oracle,
On a Dutch website that lets you know what singles are coming out this week, Miracles is listed. Can you confirm this?
No, I can't but no, it isn't.

13 November 2014 / submitted by Simon, United Kingdom
Q.  Hi - I'm one of the lucky few to own a copy of the Safety EP and am considering selling it. Realistically what sort of prices am I looking at - ebay has a copy on at £1600 but I'm not convinced it would reach that... suggestions would be helpful. Cheers
As far as I know, it hasn't quite risen to those dizzying figures yet. £1000 is very realistic but you may get 1500 quid if you start your auction at 99p (with a reserve) and leave it to the bidders.

12 November 2014 / submitted by Adam, United Kingdom
Q.  Hey, I live near Mansfield in Nottinghamshire where there is an area called Violet Hill, were the boys aware this place existed? (Would've been great if they shot the video there).
I very much doubt they're aware of every place called Violet Hill - there are so many. They're more likely to have heard of the one in NW8 though as it's pretty close to Abbey Road (& its studios).

12 November 2014 / submitted by Jose, Mexico
Q.  Dear Oracle,
I just heard a beautiful orchestral remix of Midnight used for the Exodus: Gods and Kings movie trailer. I would like to know if this song will be published and available for purchase. Thanks!
The only trailer I have seen, doesn't appear to feature a remix version. Songs used for trailers can be edited to have the desired silences or effects to compliment the trailer - it'd be a bit useless if singing was interrupting the flow of what the trailer is trying to convey.
Midnight wasn't released as a single and isn't going to be - regardless of version.

12 November 2014 / submitted by Cooper, United States of America
Q.  I heard rumors of Coldplay going back into the studio and recording another album, instead of touring for Ghost Stories. is this true?
It's not "instead of". The plan was always to do a very small tour of Ghost Stories, which they did. They visited a very few number places at intimate venues.
They returned to the studio soon after which was also the plan.