Oracle
24 April 2015 / submitted by Andre, Peru
Q.  TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #212
Perhaps it is not really relevant, it is important for me... I'm a very insecure and shy guy, and it is difficult for me to talk to a girl.
The point is that sometimes I fall in love with some girl I know just for a month, it seems stupid, but usually happens, the question is: Am I a womanizer? Thank you in advance.
I'm guessing you're a teenager because you're describing very normal teenage behaviour. The fact you're shy & insecure gives me the information that you are not a womaniser despite you falling for girls very quickly.
I wouldn't focus on that - I'd work on your self-esteem and confidence. Try to forget that they're girls and remember they're people. Talk to them like you would talk to your friends rather than there be any awkwardness. Get to know them and vice versa. See what common interests you share and suggest going somewhere together. There's no rush so take your time.
You can fall in love instantly so a month isn't necessary quick but it's the frequency of those feelings with different people. That's probably your age. There comes a point where we become interested in people romantically and it can be very confusing. There are a lot of girls out there. The key is to treat them (& yourself) with respect. Be nice and there's no problem - as long as you're not hurting anyone. If you were a heartbreaker, then we'd have an issue but currently it sounds like you're just adjusting to a new phase.
When you're growing up - and sometimes when you are grown up - you will experience strong feelings that can mistaken for love (especially infatuation).
Desire, intrigue, a common interest, having a similar personality can all attract you to someone or it could simply be your hormones bouncing up & down.
Don't forget that many people feel the same way. Just relax and be yourself.
Oh, and if you're not a teenager, most of this answer can still be applied.
Over to you.

I am a girl and you seem like a mirror to me when I was younger and it happened to me in the same way. But I say no, I don't think you are a womanizer unless you tell us that you fall in love with more than one girl at the same time.
Usually the boys didn't notice me or saw just a "friend", not someone to fall in love with in me.
I can't explain you why we feel / felt so.
Luckily I found my boyfriend and we are together for nearly 4 years. It took it's time 'til he fell in love with me, too.
Have patience . Good luck.
Maren.


You're not a womanizer, Andre. You just seem to be easily infatuated with girls. I've dealt with the same thing, but it's nothing to be worried about. What I do is, if I feel like I like somebody, I wait a month or two, while still getting to know them. If I still like them after that time, I then follow up on those feelings. I'd recommend you do the same, or similar, but it's a common, and harmless issue, unless you start leading on a lot of girls at one time.
Jackson, USA.

I'm there right now, and there is nothing wrong with how you're feeling; you can get a crush on anyone who sticks out to you or impresses you. We (you, me, and probably most people in the world) are just feeling a natural love for at least a few of the amazing people in the world, and of course we want to be around people that make us feel good or better about ourselves. The worst thing we can do is to flutter like a butterfly to whatever gives us temporary pleasure, instead of making lasting friends that could last you a lifetime. Your love for them can make you more personable to them rather than drive them away in most cases.
Nick.


Oh no no no, you really aren't. I know what that feels like, I used to be the shy girl who fell in "love" with many many people as I went about. It is a really natural feeling, and you shouldn't feel that it's stupid or lame. You mustn't let it affect you in any way, though. But you know, you should try actually talking to them, you know, they are just as scared, and just as shy as you, the only difference between you and them is that they try and actually get over their shyness instead of letting it conquer. I did that, and trust me it makes a very big difference. Try it, it works, but naturally it will take time. I hope things work out for you.
Love, Solaf.

Good News, Andre! Changing your "crush" or "dream date" every month or so, does not qualify you to be a womanizer. It is completely normal for a shy guy to take interest in a girl they haven't really known for a bit. I would almost say that it would be wierd if someone hasn't a least once. However, if you pursue all those different ladies and change to pursue another one every month, it may cause you to walk on the road that leads/ends to womanizing. Which may and can cause further complications for the girls. The most serious case I've witnessed is when they start taking a sudden interest in the song The Scientist while usually accompanied by a bowl of rocky road ice cream, to symbolize their rocky, month-old relationship with you. You being a Coldplay fan, as I presume, you've probably heard of this "disease" (which can't really be called that cause The Scientist is an awesome song). Anyways, a bit off point. You're all good man. I just suggest that when decide to talk to one of those girls, you stick to that one for a while...
Best Wishes! Jonathan.


Andre, if it's important to you, then it certainly isn't irrelavant! The answer to your question is, no. You are not a womanizer. Not unless you go after girls with cheesy lines all the time, only to have sex with them and then dump them again at least. I used to be, or maybe still am, shy and insecure like you. I'd fall in love with a guy but after a month or two tops, when things were about to get serious, I always dumped them. I don't think that has anything to do with being a womanizer (or whatever the female version of that is) and everything with being shy and insecure.I recommend trying something like assertiveness training or something similar to help you overcome your insecurities. Good luck!
Amanda.

I'll start by telling you that I, like you, am very shy and insecure, but that's not something bad, it's actually sweet.
You say that you feel that you're in love after a month, well, I know I'm in love after a second. The thing is, to fell in love is something unique and you live the feeling of love with all your heart and soul.
So, to answer your question, I'll put you to ask yourself, for how long do you love someone? If it's for more than 6 months, then you really felt and feel something real, but if it lasts less, then you should consider the fact that you just had a big crush.
I don't think you're a womanizer, you just get attached to someone very fast, don't worry, some people do that, I myself as well. It's not a bad thing to care, but it is bad to get hurt in the end because you cared too much. I went through that, so please be careful who you share your heart with.
Be yourself, try to know the ones next to you better and smile.
Lots of Love from Romania!!
Madalina.


We need to make a few distinctions here. First of all, falling in love with someone is not the same as feeling attracted to someone. You can like somebody so much when you meet them that you become a little obsessed with that person and can't stop thinking about them. But that doesn't mean you are actually in love. Falling in love with somebody is different. It doesn't happen often. You don't "usually fall in love". Loving someone implies not only feeling attracted to a person. When you love someone, you can imagine a future together with them. You love them with (what you consider to be) their flaws. You want to make that person happy and want them to be happy even if they are not in a relationship with you.
It's totally normal to like different people and to go on dates, and the fact that that happens often doesn't turn you into a womanizer. You date people to get to know them, until one day you find a special someone you want to have a relationship with. A womanizer is someone who seduces/dates several girls at the same time and doesn't want any commitment. And sometimes they don't make clear that they don't want anything serious (and it's very important to be clear about that, given the case).
So take it easy when you meet a new girl you like. Take it slow. Noelia, Argentina.

If you cheat your girlfriends or change them constantly, then you're probably a womanizer, but if you only fall in love, I don't think that's bad. You are in a process of maturing and growing up, let yourself explore life, girls and your feelings, but always with respect and truth. If you say you're shy, I think that you fall in love often because you're too shy to do something, to make a step, so it's easier to change a feeling and fall in love with another person than stop and try to grow that feeling by facing that girl and meeting her, being with her. Maybe you should take your feelings more serious and find out if they are deep enough and then to work on that relationship. Try to meet the girl more, spend a lot of time together, be just friends until you realize if it can become a love relationship, but always tell her what you really feel and explain the steps you take. Good luck!!
Kamili.


You probably don't fall in love with the girl, but just seem to like her. Love is a very strong emotion that would be very hard to overcome about the person that you have feelings for (not in a months time span). Think about what type of feelings, Specifically, and think about the kind of relationship you want with the girl. If you do constantly change the girl you like, then you MIGHT be a womanizer. But it does really depend on why you like the girl.
Gary.

Thanks to all those who replied to this week's question. Remember, Team Oracle is open to anyone so if you fancy replying, click to read this week's, and send us your answer.



24 April 2015 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q.  WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

As you may know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday we open questions of a personal nature to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 30 April.

I'm 27 years, never properly travelled or lived away from home. I'd love to live in a city like London for a year or at least I think I do. Is it wise at my age or should I stick to my career and save money (I'm an Environmental Health and Safety Graduate).
I also come from a Farm and always feel guilty when I'm away not helping Dad, (even though I don't really enjoy it and probably not much good at it, ha).
Anyway What do you think??
Patrick, Ireland.


Look forward to reading your replies.

The Oracle.
Please email your replies with TEAM ORACLE in the subject line to theoracle@coldplay.com
Including your twitter address may result in a follow back.



23 April 2015 / submitted by Laurie, Canada
Q.  Hey Oracle, Hope you are doing great! A good while back you answered a question with regards to a video of The Scientist, performed at Glastonbury 2005. The band as you recall took crowd pics after the song.
Any ideas what sites they may have shown up on, would really love to see them.
I've never seen those photos published anywhere. As you may know, the band took photos on disposable cameras during the Twisted logic Tour and threw the cameras out into the crowd. Goodness knows who caught them and where - if anywhere - the photos appeared. I'm sure some will have made their way online.
Perhaps we should start a campaign to track them down?



23 April 2015 / submitted by Frank , Germany
Q.  Why I can't find a Miracle Promo CD?
Because there isn't one. Miracles was only available as a single track download.


22 April 2015 / submitted by Alice, Brazil
Q.  Dear Oracle,
Once my physics teacher quoted Coldplay in the classroom and said that Chris had some sort of training, diploma in Arts. That's right?
Not to my knowledge, no. Chris didn't study the Arts or any art subjects. He studies Ancient World Studies (Greek & Latin).


22 April 2015 / submitted by Eric, United States of America
Q.  Can anyone identify the font used in the intro titles for the Paradise music video? It's the same font that the current Parlophone logo uses. I'm not sure if the crooked O's are part of the font or have been tweaked. Thanks!
I don't know the font name but yes, it is the current Parolophone font and the Os are part of that font.


21 April 2015 / submitted by Sigrid, Chile
Q.  Q. Hey Oracle. Is the band celebrates anniversaries Coldplay? And whether celebrates how does the place?
No. There are some key dates that we acknowledge (Anchorman and myself have good memory skills) and we may point those dates out if they feel significant.
There are so many anniversaries and we don't tend to celebrate them.



21 April 2015 / submitted by Abdulaziz, Kuwait
Q.  Hi Oracle!

Actually I heard the song Idiot
Which the band sang live at Sydney. I really loved the song so much and I wonder if the band even thinking about releasing it. And if not why?
I doubt they think about it AT ALL. Ever. Why? Because it's 13 years old!
It's just not relevant any more and they're moving forwards, not backwards.
I can't think of one artist who released a song that old. Ah, actually, I know that All Around the World (Oasis) was written much earlier but pencilled in for album 3 at the time of writing - that's forward planning. That wasn't the case for Idiot or any of the other AROBTTH rejects.



21 April 2015 / submitted by John, United States of America
Q.  Hello, I am a huge fan of Coldplay and I would like to do guitar covers of some of their songs like Don't Panic, White Shadows, and Square One (I would have the recordings playing as I play)... However I recently learned about the copyright laws of YouTube and would like to avoid any copyright. So I guess what I am asking is whether I am allowed to do this, and if not, then how do I get permission.
If you have the records playing in the background you are in breach of copyright so can't do it. If you don't have them playing in the background, you can do it.
Signed bands / songwriters do not own copyright to their songs so they cannot grant permission.
You'd have to get in touch with Parlophone Records and Universal Publishing for a license.



20 April 2015 / submitted by Marcela, Brazil
Q.  Hi, dear Oracle !! I have this question that keeps me wondering all the time, it's about the clothes that the band wears. My question is: who decides the kind of clothes they will gonna wear on tour and how are they made.
Thank you very very much!
The band come up with the initial ideas - style / colour / theme - and then meet with stylists.
The clothes are not all made the same way. Some are custom made (Viva / Mylo) and some are off the rail and some are a combination of both.
The Viva outfits are a great example of what I mean, as you can see here.




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